Recently I’ve seen a spate of clients who can’t for the life of them comprehend why other people aren’t as nice as they are. “How can people be so nasty and mean?” or “I don’t understand what anyone gets out of hurting others,” they ask me. And I wonder why they can’t grasp that people have reasons for becoming and being hurtful. Several years ago, when this subject came up with clients, I blogged about why someone’s personal history makes it hard to confront someone’s unkindness which often contributes to their noxious behavior worsening. I guess I still haven’t hit upon the right answer, because here I am blogging on the subject again. Several theories come to mind. One is that many clients with such naïveté about others’ abusiveness had abusive parents themselves. If not outright abusive, their parents were seriously self-involved, parent-centered, aloof or unempathic. Perhaps being mistreated as adults...
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