Many people are so focused on outcomes—winning, succeeding, achieving perfection or controlling life—they forget the importance of standing up for themselves and others. Is something only worthwhile when it turns out how you want or is there value in what you do even if you don’t win or things don’t turn out as you’d hoped? For example, my client Bessa had intestinal problems for decades and had seen local doctors who’d done very little for her. I finally convinced her to go to a well known medical center a few hours away. She was proud of making the appointment and had asked her mother to drive with her and stay overnight. But, between difficulties with insurance and medical test scheduling she ended up cancelling her appointment. This triggered her disappointment, anger, and feeling like a victim (which she was in childhood). Once again she felt neglected, like a loser, and that...
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